We have had nothing but trouble recently. Badger has made it his life's work to get out of the house and run off. Some of you may have experienced this already, but for those that haven't... You know how when you think about what you would do if your child ran off/bolted/eloped and you get that awful panicky feeling? Well, when it happens, it is worse. You know, exactly what you SHOULD be doing - ringing the police, checking all areas of the home, staying at home in case they return... but in reality, when they have gone and you do not know where to start looking, the emotions are hundred times worse than you could ever imagine and pretty much all sense goes out of the window, you don't want to stay home and leave it up to other people to find your child as you are their parent, you want to find them, you want to bring them home, you want to keep them safe and you want to throttle them a little bit too (not literally!) ...
We had asked Social Services for some help with this, and aggression, particularly with the long summer holidays ahead. We were told that we could get help with respite, but that was all we were entitled to. We didn't need respite, we need support. After one serious incident of him getting out again, a lot of pressure from school, they have now agreed and we are now under the children with disabilities team. The social worker we have is fab and so lovely, she knows what she is talking about and I finally feel understood.
Within 3 hours of her coming out yesterday, we have had the CAMHS referral we have been trying for 3 years to get, a fire service appointment to come and check the house out (we are worried that with the house being locked all the time, keys in key safes etc, in the event of a fire, we would struggle to get out, or get out quickly anyway) and I am already feeling better supported... I wont lie, their initial dismissal when we asked for some support was disheartening and had I not have had school's support, probably would not have contacted them again, but am I glad I did!?! Yes! I knew that having social care involvement can be really helpful and move things along nicely, but I had no idea about how quickly they could make things happen - or how much they have at hand!
If you don't necessarily feel you need or want their involvement, but are concerned about home safety - then DO call your local fire service by finding their number online and ask them to come and do a risk assessment, or just ask anything that you need to know/