I am really very sorry for the delay in posts... rather manic times right now. I am currently trying to fit in various bits of therapy for Cayden, make time for him, run the house, I am studying and the baby - oh, the baby. Which brings me to a promised, but delayed, post:- Siblingdom.I sincerely wish I could say it is all fantastic and great and a bed of roses... alas, I cannot. Don't get me wrong, it is magical, tear-jerking at steps of progress, as good as I realistically thought it could be, but it does not come easily.Bouts of aggression are directed at his baby brother, not sharing, barely able to sit in the same room as him for the first few weeks, jealousy and the consequential running away, lashing out or destruction in order to get any attention, making baby cry for no reason... typical of an older child having their first brother to get used to, but far more exaggerated responses.Over time, this has improved... we are still a long way off but at least now he doesn't want to send Bam Bam back and he is stopping running him over with his truck! ;) Not only this, but Bam Bam being Bam Bam has been greatly beneficial to Badger... his personality is attention seeking, demanding, won't-leave-you-alone, grabby, loud, messy... polar opposite of his big bro which in turn has helped Badger come a little more out of his shell. Or forced him out a little more. This is all an ongoing story though, and for those reading because they are looking for advice, I intend on posting tomorrow a less personal page with practical advice and links to outside help and support. I would like to mention, however, that for me, the hardest part of having Bam Bam has 100% been the total total total panic and analysing Bam Bam's behaviour... looking for signs that he may be autistic. If he were, then that would be just a fact of life, but that doesn't stop the mind constantly whirring and watching. By 18-24 months I will know. Right now, I am just focusing on trying not to let my worries take over and enjoy having a baby again, watching both of the boys help each other grow into perfect, accepting, caring children.
